Frustration

writer-s-block-1239338-1598x836b-2.jpgMy father will tell you I never stop talking and have an opinion about everything. That is mostly true, mostly. However, I have struggled lately with topics to expand this blog. I’ve started several pieces and easily bored with all them faster than I could end them.

The walk on the autism spectrum was a topic from the heart, but my son is my friend on social media so I was concerned he would anger publicizing our difficult stumbles.

Then it was a question, a real cry for understanding on why upon meeting, do people ask other people what they do for a living? It is intrusive. Lots of people define themselves by how they fit into the employment circle, and since most of us want to win the lottery so we don’t have to work, it seems crazy to start a conversation with a stranger about something that the odds are they either don’t care about, are embarrassed by, or really hate. How about finding out what they do when their time is free? I suspect the first question, which is usually answered in the way that most impresses the listener, has become a standard conversation-starter because our society values the perception of success over what drives our fellow humans to exist. Maybe the calamity in the White House will help reinforce those with “impressive” jobs are not always so impressive.

Then it was the annoyance of being controlled. Not by the government, don’t get me started, but by our pets. I will sit in my office, refusing to get up to pee until I finish a task, but when my cat meows for chicken, I am at the refrigerator door immediately. How can beings who are illiterate, potty outside, and lick their privates smack dab in the middle of the living room, so easily control humans? Humans are intelligent. And we have opposable thumbs for God’s sake!

And yet there was today’s subject, success and how we measure it. By the number on our paychecks or how we treat others, or yet by another measure I couldn’t think of. I had the whole blog written, in my head. But without a computer or pen nearby, it will never come to fruition. Maybe I should write about the fact that I can’t remember anything unless I write it down, but I think that has been done before.

So, I sit and remember what I have been taught over the years. If it sucks, don’t write about it. If it’s boring don’t write about it. If it is about religion, sex, or politics, don’t write about it. But, most of all, I remember that my son will see what I write. I forced him to friend/follow me on social media, making him my biggest checks and balances. So, I hope I haven’t embarrassed my kid by finding substance in being frustrated and thinking it doesn’t suck to admit it.

Author: ogatacarly

A freelance writer who's professional profile reads, "A creative marketer with 20 years of writing and television sales experience specializing in media advertising."

7 thoughts on “Frustration”

      1. When I click on the “follow me”, it wants me to register and gives me choices that make no sense to me as I do not want to start a blog or a portfolio or a website or an online store. I just want to follow you!

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  1. A few years ago – the year I traveled with my mom to the Grand Canyon, Zion, and Bryce – I read that there are three primary “first questions” people ask. They are: Where are you from? Who is your family? What work do you do? Each question is both filled with judgment and a hope for a connection. Our brains are programmed to find patterns, assign categories. These questions are part of that formula. In the USA, our primary first question is the one you mention – so what do you do? It’s also considered a “safe” question – we think that everybody must do something. Safer than asking if you have kids or own a home or go to church. I usually don’t say “I’m an attorney” because that brings up an entirely new (and powerful) set of judgments. I usually make reference to working for the teacher’s union – that can lead to a pretty long conversation with folks who don’t have any concept about that. But sometimes I just toss away the question as it was intended and answer about what I do in my free time, just as you indicated. I love dogs. I like to cook. I’ve been reading a new book, have you heard about it? I watch SNL – did you see it last week? It’s all about opening your personal door to the person asking you the question. Open it as far wide or as minimally as is good for you. Or answer their question with your own!
    BTW – love your blog! 🙂

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